A few months ago, I posted a questionnaire on my website to assist me in learning more about women's degree of self-love, self-acceptance, and how relationships around them have affected that.
I was gathering research for a book I was going to title Through Broken Lenses. I will be changing the title of the book, yet I'm not quite sure to what just yet. I will let you know as soon as I do!
Below you will find a list of stats from the answers received. Not all 100 questions are listed here, but I think you will find the following list very interesting. My sample size included, on average, 60 answers per question. I will let you all know as soon as the book is published.
If you have comments or questions about the project, or if you are interested in being a part of my Launch Team, please contact me.
Did you trust your mother?
Do you trust women overall?
Would you say you were closer to your mother or your father when you were a child?
Did your father ever tell you that you were beautiful?
Don't remember 10%
Did your father ever tell you that you were smart?
Don't remember 5%
Did you feel loved by your father?
Did you trust your father?
While growing up, did you think you were pretty?
Which do you think was most important when fitting in with other girls? Beauty or intelligence?
Did you find yourself comparing your intelligence to other girls? And as you got older, other women?
Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself with other women?
While growing up, did you think you were smart?
Did you find yourself comparing your physical appearance to other girls? And as you got older, other women?
Did you ever make fun of girls who were not as smart or as pretty as you?
Were you ever the victim of any bullying or "mean girls"?
At your current age now, do you have female friends?
Do you currently get along better with men or with women?
Do you feel comfortable being vulnerable and letting down your guard around other women?
Did you feel confident about your body when you were around boys?
Didn't think about it 10%
Did you feel comfortable about your intelligence level around boys?
What was your general opinion of boys while growing up - generally positive, negative, or neutral?
In your adult life, what is your general opinion of men - generally positive, negative, or neutral?
Were you promiscuous in high school/college?
What age were you when you lost your virginity?
Haven't yet (2)
Did you ever experience sexual abuse?
No Answer 43%
Do you think your sexuality developed at age-appropriate intervals?
Don't know 5%
Were you ever self-conscious about your developing body during puberty?
Don't Know 3%
Did you feel pressured to have first-time sex? Or was the decision mutual?
Unclear Response 6%
In general, do you feel confident around men?
Have you done things in your life that you still haven't forgiven yourself for?
Are you proud of your body?
Getting there 5%
Unclear response 4%
Do you treat your body with respect (good hygiene, healthy nutrition, regular exercise, getting enough sleep)?
Getting there 29%
Unclear response 4%
Do you often find yourself listening to negative self-talk?
Do you think you are beautiful?
Do you trust yourself and your ability to make good decisions?
Would you say that you love yourself?
Getting there 15%
Do you spend time cultivating a relationship with yourself (doing things you enjoy, spending time alone to focus on hobbies, pampering yourself, learning and growing)?
Getting there 9%
Are there relationships (past or present) that you would like to repair?
If you could apologize to anyone from your entire life without a fear of retaliation or anger, would you do it?
No one to apologize to 9%
If you could receive an apology from anyone from your entire life, who would it be? Would you forgive them?
--------- Actual responses-----
8/51= 16% Father
17/51= 33% Mother
5/51= 10% Both parents
(30/51= 59% One or both parents)
How important is your spiritual life to you?
Very Important 59%
Somewhat Important 11%
Not Important 21%
Do you have a faith you depend on in times of difficulty?
Do you feel like you deserve love and happiness?
Do you feel "good enough"?